before i begin, i just wanna say that i'm not bitter while i'm writing this. it's just that this topic came up more than once recently in my conversations with people and i wanted to voice my opinion.
In ficb and kcpc, it's so, so hard to find your 'special someone'. It's dang nearly impossible for MOST of us. Why? Aren't there enough decent guys and girls? sure there are. Then, what's the problem? The problem is this: for some reason, too many people think that dating and being in a relationship are pretty much interchangeable. If a boy asks a girl out on a date and they go on a date, to those watching them (everyone -_-), they are "together". Now, there's really no harm in this if things work out. But only in a perfect world, things always work out. In the world that I'm living in, things don't always work out. What happens when the boy or the girl loses interest? They stop dating. People start talking. The boy is a dog. The girl is a victim. (or vice versa, hm?) The boy cannot date a girl from ficb and kcpc ever again, because everyone knows that he's a playa. Get my point?
Ok, so what's the biggest problem? It's that people don't understand that dating is really the only way to get to know one another in a potentially romantic boy-girl relationship. But if people already start talking as if they're 'together' when they've merely started dating, who can feel comfortable asking anyone on a date?
Sure, it'd be wonderful if we can 'explore our interests' even without going on formal dates. But that's virtually impossible in ficb because we're all so close in our own cliques (i.e. class) and if anyone wants to hang out 1-on-1 with anyone from outside his/her clique, some sort of an ask-out must happen. Otherwise, there's no 1-on-1, which is essential for a lets-get-to-know-each-other-better part of a relationship.
How are we supposed to find 'the one' if we don't explore our interests? How are we supposed to explore our interests, if we can't date? How are we supposed to keep dating until you find 'the one' if we're bombarded with the pressure of maintaining a committed relationship that never existed in the first place, except in the eyes of the spectators?
Let's say that I asked a YOUNGER girl out on a date - let's say a FRESHMAN (gasp!). First, everyone will know about it -_- Now, let's say that, after going on a few dates and having lots of meaningful conversations, I decided that we're better off as friends and stop dating her. What do you think people will think, say, do? Do you think I'll ever be able to date younger girls from ficb ever again? haha..
This is a serious problem, because there's no better place to find our 'special someone'. Some people just need to relax a little.
Like I said, I'm not bitter. I just know that many people feel the same way, and that it's about time we just kinda relax and let people find their 'special someone' from ficb and kcpc.
